Thursday, November 22, 2012

I Second That Steve Harvey

A recent Strawberry Letter embraced the topic of celibacy on The Steve Harvey Morning Show. He and Shirley Strawberry gave some excellent advice. I especially love the way Steve broke down that the way the writer was operating was detrimental to her desire to find the right man. If I may add my two cents…. celibacy shouldn’t feel like a death sentence. Yes, it gets hard at times. Yet, the period in your life when you are not getting it in is a time for self-reflection, meditation, and fellowship with God. Essentially, you have given yourself to God. If you can’t give God you cheerfully then you really need to re-examine your reasons for being celibate. I personally am a very happy, and I am experiencing more peace than I ever have as a single woman. I only date men who respect my views and are worth my time. You can save yourself a lot of heartache that way.

Listen to their commentary here http://www.v103.com/pages/sh.html?article=10586920

My Side of the Single Life is by book author Jae Henderson. Her inspirational romance novels, Someday and Someday, Too are now available on Kindle and Nook. Visit her at, www.jaehendersonauthor.com and www.imagoodwoman.com.


Monday, October 29, 2012

Why You Worried About That Other Chick?



I knew I was in trouble when I asked the handsome young man sitting next to me at the bar if he was seeing anybody and he answered, “Do you like Lil Wayne? I love Lil Wayne."

I wondered where he could possibly be going with that. He let me know quite quickly. 

"You know that song out right now where he says, 'Why you worried about that other chick?'”


“Yes. That’s the one with Keyshia Cole, right?” I responded.

Yeah,” he said. “Why you worried about that other chick?”

I laughed. Buzz kill of the evening. This gentleman previously asked me if I was seeing anyone and I answered open and honestly that I wasn’t but when I asked him I get a Lil Wayne inspired answer. This is the same dude who has tattoos over at least 75% of his body, has at least four children by four different women and talks about sex with no commitment regularly in his songs, right?  Lil Wayne is probably not someone he should be quoting when trying to get at a woman like me. Yet, I was amused that he would go there. At this point I can….. 

      A.  Tune him out because he’s obviously hiding something 
      B. Resolve to take this evening at face value and his advice and not worry about that other chick
      CBadger him until I get an answer
 
I chose option B. It’s obvious he’s hiding someone but I was enjoying his company. He had decent conversation and a nice smile. Besides, I was having a purely innocent exchange while sitting at the bar in some random restaurant. I had no expectations so disappointment wasn't an issue. I think he thought he was being witty with his Lil Wayne response..I’ll just blame it on the a-a-a-a-a-alcohol and give him a pass. Now, if he were to attempt to take it a step further and asked me out and I chose the ignore the signs that he possibly had a girlfriend, wife or baby’s momma then I would have to be prepared for the consequences that could incur. However, I don’t anticipate that happening. I’ve never been one for playing the side chick.

So he’s right, why am I worried about that other chick because I probably won’t see him again. Before the night ended he did ask me to accompany him to another restaurant that was hosting a party that evening but I politely declined. He wasn't the least bit upset about my refusal and even paid for my drink and my meal. 

Nice guy....but obviously off limits.

In the words of Keyshia Cole, "I ain't staying..." #thatisall 

It shole is hard being single in the city...LOL



My Side of the Single Life is by book author Jae Henderson. Her inspirational romance novels, Someday and Someday, Too are now available on Kindle and Nook. Visit her at, www.jaehendersonauthor.com and www.imagoodwoman.com.  
 

Sunday, October 21, 2012

Hypocrite or Human?





I recently watched the video of DeVon Franklin (Actress Meagan Good’s husband) describing why he initially became celibate. He talked about how at one point he was ministering to others about not having sex but he was having sex himself.  He was living a lie and cheapening the words that came from his mouth in the process. He became celibate so that he could be a better messenger for the Lord. His obedience has not only blessed his ministry but his personal life. He now has a beautiful woman of God to share his life with as well as a new book.

His testimony made me think about my own battle with fornication and hypocrisy. One thing I never want to be known as is a hypocrite. Everyone at some point in their lives has said one thing and then done another. Sometimes it’s intentional, other times it isn’t. As a child I was told, “Never say never because you may one day find yourself doing what you said you would never do.”  Ain’t that the truth! 

As a college student, I attended Mississippi Boulevard Christian Church and on Wednesday nights we had an amazing youth adult Bible study.  I loved it and it was mainly because of the atmosphere of knowledge and worship set by the youth and young adult pastor, Stacy Spencer, who now serves as pastor of New Direction Christian Church. One day Dr. Spencer pulled me to the side and asked me if I would be willing to lead one of the breakout sessions we usually had after he delivered his weekly message.  During this time, we would discuss in small groups what he talked about and how we could apply it to our daily lives. I have always had a great amount of respect for Dr. Spencer and I still enjoy hearing him speak. I should have been honored that he saw something in me that prompted him to ask me to be a leader among my peers but instead I panicked and stopped coming to Bible study. Why, you ask? Simply put, I thought I was unworthy. One of the topics we embraced regularly was sexual immorality and at the time I was head over heels in love with someone and getting my groove on whenever humanly possible. 

Love is a beautiful thing (oh yes it is!) but when the expression of that love conflicts with your religious beliefs it creates inner turmoil. I couldn’t bring myself to stand up in front of those young people and be a hypocrite. I couldn’t bring myself to say what thus saith the Lord knowing good and well I was doing it…OFTEN! I’ve grown up a lot since then. Although I still don’t believe in doing one thing and saying another, I know that while you are yet in your sin God can use you and change you. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t stop sinning, repent and continue to work each day to resist temptation. God continuously calls us to live a life of holiness. What I am saying is don’t let the guilt of your sin keep you from doing work on behalf of the kingdom.  If you mess up at work you don’t quit your job, do you? Of course not, you need that job to survive! You apologize to your boss and your coworkers and do better the next time. Your mistake may have taught you a valuable lesson that allows you to become a better employee. We are human. We make mistakes but our humanity is not an excuse to sin nor is it a reason to separates ourselves from God. God expects more from us. He wants us to acknowledge our sin, repent, use our experiences to help us become better Christians and use our testimonies to sow seeds of hope, progress and the power of His love in others. If you fall, don’t do what I did. I let my sin keep me from helping to lead others to Christ. Who knows what good I could have done for the youth in that Bible Study, as well as myself?

I now write books that encourage sexual responsibility….that includes, abstinence, celibacy and being selective about your sex partners, if you should choose to engage in premarital sex. I know from experience, that everyone isn’t going to abstain but the least you can do is be smart about who you share your body with.

I, myself, have chosen celibacy. I have always been hesitant to share this fact openly because I have no desire to become the poster child for not getting any. However, it seems that God is pushing me to be more transparent. Resisting temptation isn’t easy, but I’m doing well right now. I’m walking the walk I talk and I must say that it feels good to be able to look others in the eye and know that I’m not living a lie nor am I lying to them. They respect me more but I also respect myself.  I enjoy not feeling guilty about my actions. Best of all, I know that I have pleased my Heavenly Father. I am an example of what he can do in your life if you do what thus saith the Lord. Life is good!

Pray for my strength and I will continue to pray for yours. 

My Side of the Single Life is by book author Jae Henderson. Her inspirational romance novels, Someday and Someday, Too are now available on Kindle and Nook. Visit her at, www.jaehendersonauthor.com and www.imagoodwoman.com. 


Friday, October 12, 2012

Is Your Entertainment Screwing You?



As much as I enjoy this song Brandy has clearly defined one of the things wrong with dating today in her hit Put It Down. The chorus states, “If you put it down right like the way I want it, play your cards right, maybe we can fall in love.” She and Chris Brown sing an interesting tale of sex before substance, which has ruined many an uninformed participant. I would rather know what’s in a brother’s head way before he ever gets to what’s in between my legs. If getting a piece of me is the only thing on his mind, then we have nothing to talk about. I choose substance before sex.

Following the lyrics of Brandy’s program, I predict that a woman will become sprung, confusing great sex for love. Eventually, the man will get bored and leave because the excitement has worn off and she presented no challenge. Now she's sitting up in her room all heartbroken. I know what you’re saying…it’s just a song, Jae. But I guarantee there is are women out there shouting HELLS YEAH! when it comes on then challenging some man to put it down before she even knows his first and last name. Think ladies! No worries, I'm not picking on Brandy. There are a plethora of songs, tv shows, movies, and books touting this doomsday message. Remember Sex in the City? Listen to almost any Lil Wayne or Nicki Minage song. They're always praising their sexual prowess/promiscuity. If it's true or not I don't know, but I don't care. Their message isn't one I choose to adhere to. Giving away coochie like election "Vote for (insert name here)" stickers isn't good for anyone.

Don’t get screwed by your entertainment! People make those songs to sell product and they shouldn't be a handbook for how to operate in your relationships. Getting screwed and then feeling as if you've been used and abused is no fun, but it happens every day. Make him get to know you before you give up the goodies.

Well, until next time....remember to love yourself!

Random Thought…Can Kelly Rowland make a hit song that isn’t about sex? ICE..I-C-E. Keep this up she’ll be the modern day Adina Howard. I will be a freak until the day until the daaaaaaawn....LOL

On a more serious note, my ebooks Someday and Someday, Too are now half-off in honor of Breast Cancer Awareness and Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Find them on Amazon.com and Barnesandnoble.com. Only $3.49 each.  A donation will be given to Race for the Cure and local women's shelter. We have to find a cure and love shouldn't hurt.

My Side of the Single Life is by book author Jae Henderson. Her inspirational romance novels, Someday and Someday, Too are now available on Kindle and Nook. Visit her at, www.jaehendersonauthor.com and www.imagoodwoman.com.

Friday, September 7, 2012

You Are Beautiful

I am currently hard at work trying to finish the first draft of my next book Forever and a Day. As much as I would love to crank my novels out faster to satisfy the appetite of my voracious readers, I just don't work like that. I have to take my time so that I can release the best product possible. Yet, I am not insensitive to your pain (lol), and I am ever so grateful that some of you are eagerly anticipating the next novel.

I began to seek a way to connect with my friends, readers, and supporters in between novels and decided that a series of short stories would be perfect. I am proud to announce that the Things Every Good Woman Should Know
series made it's eBook debut yesterday. It can be purchased on Kindle and Nook for only .99!


The first story is You Are Beautiful.

Up-and-coming singer, Dawn Williams, finds herself faced with a difficult decision when she is pressured to have breast implants to help enhance her budding career. She begins to question her own definition of beauty and the sincerity of those who are supposed to love her and have her best interests at heart. Dawn embarks on a journey of self-love as she seeks to define true beauty and defy those who use the entertainment industry's distorted images as a measuring stick for it. Beauty isn't found in a cup size. Any woman who has ever doubted her own looks should read this. (38 pages) 
 
 Check out the eBook trailer below. 



You can purchase it on Amazon or Barnsandnoble.com. If you don't have a eReader, Kindle now offers reader apps for download on smart phones and PCs. Visit here.

I plan to release one short story at least every other month until I run out of stories. Stay tuned for the next one, Things Every Good Woman Should Know: Take Care of Those You Love.   


 

Say It With Confidence



I have a good friend named Dr. Valencia Walker. She has always seemed wise beyond her years, and I am ever so grateful to have her in my circle. Each week she does a wonderful blog called "Think About Thursdays". This week's was too good not to share. I'm still working on this one, too.


If you gon’ ask, ask with confidence.  Okay, I normally try to write in a manner that leaves no doubt of my grasp for standard written English. Then, there are those times when I just want to write it the way I thought it. This is one of those times.   
    
I almost feel bad for putting this young lady on blast.  Notice I said “almost” so it clearly intends to happen anyway.  For whatever reason, this week was not the week to be “wishy-washy” with me.  *shrugs* I spend a considerable amount of time mentoring people younger than me.  I find joy and purpose in the time I spend encouraging others to discover the wonderful contribution the world is waiting on them to make.  More than anything, I firmly believe in “paying it forward” for all the inspiring teachers and role models God placed in my life to help me stay on track. 
    
But, I recently received this message:
     “Hi, I wanted to get some information about the … mentoring program. I am a grad student ... Hopefully next year I will enroll ... Anyway, I just wanted to know if there were any requirements to participate in this organization sorry to bother you...”
    
For the life of me, I could not figure out why she added an apology at the end of her message.  I posted a specific request for people to contact me if they were interested in receiving mentoring.  She followed directions.  Why then did she end by apologizing (for doing the right thing)?  *confused face* As women, we are practically pathological in our ability to sabotage ourselves with self-disparaging words.  Notice I said, “We.”  Oh, I am still a major work in progress in this area too.  However, nothing drives home the point on the need to improve like seeing the behavior from the other side of the power dynamic.  While I still plan to help her, my first impression was that this was someone who lacked confidence and conviction (which will not take you anywhere in my profession). 
    
Now, think about how you talk about yourself to other people, especially your supervisors.  As they say at church, “The tongue has the power of life and death…”  So, are you living or dying by your words? Here are a few recommended books if you are interested in learning more about the power to communicate effectively in this area: 

1. Code Switching: How to Talk So Men Will Listen (Brown and Nelson)


2. A Woman's Guide to the Language of Success: Communicating With Confidence and Power (Mindell) 

3. Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office: 101 Unconscious Mistakes Women Make That Sabotage Their Careers (Frankey)    


---By Valencia Walker, MD     


My Side of the Single Life is by book author Jae Henderson. Her books, Someday and Someday, Too are now available on Kindle and Nook. Visit her at, www.jaehendersonauthor.com and www.imagoodwoman.com.
www.imagoodwoman.com and check out my books Someday and Someday, Too while you're there.

Tuesday, August 21, 2012

RIP to That One





As a former radio personality I have met several people in the entertainment industry.  Some famous, others not so famous. Some were brief chance encounters and others blossomed into friendships. I don’t have any mega star friends. I’ve never even had contact information for anyone that I would classify as a celebrity. Well maybe a couple, but most celebs change numbers frequently so it’s hard to stay in touch unless they really want to. However, I do tend to stay in touch with band members, managers, personal security, etc. If I meet somebody and I think they’re cool, I’ll keep in touch. As a rule, if we’re in each other’s home city we’ll hit the other up and do lunch or something. Well, one such person who will remain nameless is a phenomenal musician who lives in Atlanta. He’s extremely talented, and I’ve enjoyed watching his progression as a musician. I’ve seen him on stage with everyone from Jay Z to Usher to Teddy Riley. I am so proud of him. He is a true testament to what hard work can get you. I let him know I was coming to visit my sister in Atlanta and suggested that if he wasn’t on tour with someone we could do lunch or something. His text message response had me picking my jaw up off the floor.

HIM: I’ll be out of town but I don’t have lunch with women I’m not sleeping with.

ME: Really? That’s shallow.

HIM: I know right

As the old folks say, he’s smelling himself. Needless to say, we haven’t talked since. Have women become so desperate to be near a man with money and status that they’re doing anyone associated with him now? Or perhaps any ole successful man will do. If I ever decide to become a groupie you better believe I’m starting with the top dog, the man whose name is on the tickets. But that will never happen. My body is a temple and only worthy to be shared with someone who loves me, not someone I feel enamored with because watching him perform brings me joy.

Ladies, we have got to stop encouraging this type of behavior. As long as women continue to indulge in these friendships with benefits men with and with/out status will think it’s okay to take us out to eat and expect to have our cookies for dessert afterward.

To say my feelings were hurt by his response would be an understatement. I’ve known that cat for at least five years, and I’m sorry to see that this is what he’s come to. Groupie love is temporary but friendships can last a lifetime. I pray his perspective shifts back to what’s real before it’s too late. Any man who believes he has to sleep with every woman he eats a meal with obviously isn’t on my level. I’m as real as they come.

One of the best types of wisdom is knowing when to walk away. RIP to that one. I don’t do shallow. 

My Side of the Single Life is by book author Jae Henderson. Her books, Someday and Someday, Too are now available on Kindle and Nook. Visit her at, www.jaehendersonauthor.com and www.imagoodwoman.com.
www.imagoodwoman.com and check outmy books Someday and Someday, Too while you're there.

Friday, August 10, 2012

When Does Confidence Become Arrogance?




I was recently talking to a man on the phone and he asked what happened in my last relationship. I briefly enlightened him and he responded, “That’s okay. With me you’ve upgraded in class and quality.” My sister called his answer arrogant, but I actually found it kind of sexy. She said she would have hung up. His words made me want to know more. I guess the journalist in me was intrigued and wanted to get to know him better to see if it was true. What made him believe he was a man of class and quality? In your opinion, when does confidence cross over into arrogance? If I had to guess, it’s probably when you get tired of hearing him tell you how wonderful he is.

My Side of the Single Life is by book author Jae Henderson. Her books, Someday and Someday, Too are now available on Kindle and Nook. Visit her at, www.jaehendersonauthor.com and www.imagoodwoman.com.
www.imagoodwoman.com and check outmy books Someday and Someday, Too while you're there.

Wednesday, August 1, 2012


I recently read an article by Clutch Magazine that asked if you can be religious and sexy. I found it to be an interesting topic and decided to explore it more. The writer interviewed actress Meagan Good, who many consider to be a sex symbol, about her sexy attire and how it has recently raised eyebrows since she is now married a pastor.  I found the writer's perception of sexy interesting. You can find a link to the article here. I suggest you read it before reading my comments.  http://www.clutchmagonline.com/2012/07/can-women-be-religious-and-sexy/





Here's my take on the topic topic.

I most definitely believe you can be religious and sexy. However, my problem with the article is that it focuses on sexiness as if it is something you can put on and take off with the articles of clothing you wear. It's true you can wear clothing and makeup to make you appear sexier but there is a huge difference between sexy and revealing. Sexy is an attitude. It appears in the way you move and the way you talk without you even having to try. It's natural and either you have it or you don't and if you are truly sexy, you can be fully clothed and people will notice. God made sexy just like he made sex. Now, how you flaunt it could be a direct reflection of your walk with God or your inability to determine appropriate from inappropriate. Could a woman really stand in the pulpit and minister in a bikini? I think not. No one would focus on her message no matter how good it was because they would be too busy focusing on her assets or lack thereof. Or look at it from this angle, how about the fine chick in an outfit that shows all her curves and six inch heels. I bet your last thought is "I bet she knows Jesus!"

However, if you choose to identify sexy by the articles you wear, ladies we have to ask ourselves if what we are wearing distracts from the Christ that lives in us. Does your outfit say saved, virtuous, and set apart from ungodliness? If the answer is no, you may need to change clothes. Ask yourself if Jesus were a woman WWJW (What Would Jesus Wear). I don't think she'd be wearing a cleavage baring top and booty shorts. IJS

If you're wondering what I think of Meagan. I personally love her as an actress and as a person. However, I wouldn't be surprised if as the wife of a pastor she finds herself toning down her sexy outfits.






My Side of the Single Life is by book author Jae Henderson. Her books, Someday and Someday, Too are now available on Kindle and Nook. Visit her at, www.jaehendersonauthro.com and www.imagoodwoman.com

Thursday, July 19, 2012

The Problem With Break Ups


They say breaking up is hard to do. I say dealing with the aftermath of the breakup is harder. From the “I’m so glad he’s gone" feelings to the “I sure wish he would call or text" wishes. It’s that time where you pick yourself up and tell yourself repeatedly that you’re still the –ish and just because this didn’t work out doesn’t mean you’re any less magnificent. The truth of the matter is that it doesn’t matter if it’s your fault or his fault or if you’re the dumper or the dumpee the end result is usually still the same. You have now been welcomed with open arms back into the singles club and you hope that you don’t have to hang out there too long before your next love interest comes along and snatches you out of there. I decided to ask men and women what they hate most about breaking up and the answers ranged from the hilarious to the slit your wrist that is so freakin sad. I asked them to omit the heart ache and pain stuff because that pretty much goes without saying. Names have been deleted to protect the sad and pathetic. I'm just kidding. We are allowed to feel however it is we feel. (-:


1.   I have no one I can make go to the weddings of people they don't know and will probably never see again with me.

2.    I messed up but I still want to be with her.

3.   I have no one who is obligated to eat my cooking and tell me that it's good.

4.   Deciding who gets the friends? Many times you hang out with other couples. But after the breakup...

5.   I got to start this mess all over again with the new man I think is Mr. Right.

6.   Getting rid of the pictures with him that you looked really cute in.

7.   Having to explain to people over and over again what happened and why you can't work it out.

8.    Being alone.

9.   Deciding who gets the stuff y'all acquired as a couple!

10.    Going to common areas hoping they're not there; Seeing their friends in the street praying they don't offer unsolicited updates; Feeling like you're forgetting something when their birthday comes around!!

11.   Seeing them with someone new.

12.   Trying to figure out who you're going to ask out this time because your
       steady date is no longer an option.

13.   Hearing/seeing/smelling any reminders of when you were together.

14.  Missing them and knowing they probably don't give a crap.

15.  Constant updates from friends/family members when they see him out.

16.  People asking me "Have u heard from him?"

17. Having to still deal with him because of the kids and when y'all break up 
     he moves in with the girl he cheated with and they marry less than a
     year later.

18. No Sex of course !!!!! I can't believe I let a perfectly clean person go DUH!!!!!!


My Side of the Single Life is by book author Jae Henderson. Her books, Someday and Someday, Too are now available on Kindle and Nook. Visit her at, www.jaehendersonauthor.com and www.imagoodwoman.com.
www.imagoodwoman.com and check out

my books Someday and Someday, Too while you're there.

Wednesday, June 6, 2012

I'll Build On The Rock & Wait




Matthew 7: 24-27 


24 Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. 25 The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock. 26 But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not put them into practice is like a foolish man who built his house on sand. 27 The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell with a great crash.

Life would be so much sweeter if we followed instructions. How many times have you cut corners or tried things your way only to end up with a catastrophe? Then, what do we do? We fall on our knees and ask God to help us out of a situation that never should have been. He could harden His heart and leave us to wallow in our own mess but because our Heavenly Father loves us, He reaches down, pulls us out and cleans us up. I can't count the numerous times that I ran to my Heavenly Father crying for help. And I’ll be honest…the biggest mistakes I’ve made have had to do with men. Rather than building on rock (God), I built on sand named wrong man. Then entered false love, sinful lust, epic failure, disastrous heartache, bruised spirit, and weeping eyes that were renewed by my God's soft touch, loving kindness, gentle kisses, awesome forgiveness, uncompromising love----a hard lesson learned. I learned in the worst way possible, but I learned. God still loves me, and that’s what matters. I’m following instructions this time, and I’m so much better for it. I’m willing to wait for the one God has chosen for me. Are you? 

This not only applies to men but to every aspect of our lives. Start with a solid foundation rooted in Christ and build from there. When the storms of life blow and threaten to sweep you away into nonexistence, stand firm and know who you are, whose you are, and what you are…A CHRISTIAN AND A CONQUEROR.

Patience truly is a virtue. 

 

My Side of the Single Life is by book author Jae Henderson. Her books, Someday and Someday, Too are now available on Kindle and Nook. Visit her at, www.jaehendersonauthor.com and www.imagoodwoman.com.

Wednesday, May 30, 2012

Unafraid To Love



The funny thing about me and love is the more I do it the more unafraid I am. I’ve noticed that I’ve become more bold and brazen. I’m hopeful and optimistic when someone comes into my life.I recognize that love is a gamble, but I welcome the challenge. I’ve become wiser in my selections. I’m more experienced, and I can see trouble coming. Now, I’m a little quicker to get out of the way or at least prepare my heart for what’s to come. Unfortunately, you can't always avoid heartache and pain.  I’ve still had my fair share of disappointments, but I’m grateful that I haven’t put up a wall or hid myself in a box. I’m not afraid to place my cards face up and see if the opponent I’ve deemed as worthy is bold enough and secure enough to do the same.

Fear isn’t good soil to grow a healthy relationship. I just keep telling myself that no matter what I'm going to be okay, and I always am.Thank God for that.

I'm Winning!

My Side of the Single Life is by book author Jae Henderson. Her books, Someday and Someday, Too are now available on Kindle and Nook. Visit her at, www.jaehendersonauthor.com and www.imagoodwoman.com.

Tuesday, May 8, 2012

In the Company of My Sisters



My weekend at the Romance Slam Jam book conference in Little Rock, Arkansas was nothing short of amazing. Nothing but God could have led me to such an amazing event with amazing people, mostly women, who love reading as much as I do. Not only do they love reading but some of them write and they love it enough to invest their money traveling to improve themselves and support others. WHEW!

The cover of my book, "Someday"  was nominated for an award and even though I didn't win it was an honor to be nominated. I served on panels with authors like Brenda Jenkins---who is an icon in the romance novel industry.Can you believe someone was actually interested in something I had to say. LOL  I met bestsellers like Gweneth Bolton.  During the author signing, I sat on the same row as Francis Ray. If I didn’t mention you please don’t think you were any less significant to me.  I didn’t see any egos, divas or jealous Jennies anywhere. Just women who love romance novels and wanted to have a good time! I felt such a warm camaraderie in the company of my sisters. Of course there was a man sprinkled here and there, but mostly it was wonderful, beautiful talented women.  What I remember most is their warm hugs, kind smiles and, and willingness to give advice to a new author, like myself. It’s weeks later, and I’m still reeling from it and putting what I learned to use. That weekend was confirmation that I'm on the right track in my quest to pursue full-time authorship.

THANK YOU Romance Slam Jam and I special thank you to Garbo Hearne of Pyramid Books, Fine Art and Custom Framing for bring me to the attention of the host committee. 

I hope to see you all in Milwaukee next year!

 My Side of the Single Life is by book author Jae Henderson. Her books, Someday and Someday, Too are now available on Kindle and Nook.
www.jaehendersonauthro.com and www.imagoodwoman.com 

There's Only One Me


Life gets in the way, and I'm learning one of the hardest things to do is juggle it all. At this point in my life, I'm trying to balance a very demanding job, being an up and coming author, family, the new....dare I say it.....MAN in my life and my own personal improvement. Some of this improvement comes in the form of a new hobby. I've realized that other than writing, I don't have one. I want something that doesn't involve a computer screen. I'm contemplating yoga, archery, potter making....ugh I don't know. I just want something that allows me to escape this digital world I've grown to live in 24/7. This computer has become a necessity and my poor eyes are paying for it. If you have any suggestions send them to me.

Each time I become frustrated by the fact that there are only 24 hours in the day and only one of me....I think back to that famous quote by someone named Anonymous. "You can have it all but not at the same time." In short, prioritize. As I struggle to juggle my busy life as I stand on one leg and scratch my behind I have to strategically eliminate some of the balls in my hands lest I fall over and hurt myself or drop something I can't afford to lose. All my Superwomen repeat after me.....there's only one me....there's only one me.....there's only one me. I've got to stop feeling guilty that I can't do it all and revel in the fact that I'm talented enough to do any of it.

Remember that and be blessed!

Today's lesson: There's only one me. (-:


 My Side of the Single Life is by book author Jae Henderson. Her books, Someday and Someday, Too are now available on Kindle and Nook.
www.jaehendersonauthro.com and www.imagoodwoman.com