Wednesday, January 11, 2012


Purpose (noun) : The reason for which something is done or created or for which something exists.

I think as a single woman with no children, the thing I struggle with most is purpose. When you have an immediate family you are reminded each day of the reason why you live. It's the look in the eyes of those who love and appreciate you. It’s in the smile, the hugs, the thank yous, the momentous occasions and the quality time you begin to take for granted--they are all constant reminders that your very existence has a defined meaning and an impact on the lives of others.  Yet, when you come home to an empty house each day, that daily reminder isn’t there so you are forced to seek the answer to that question in other ways and outside your place of residence. 

Am I lonely?   No

Am I sad?   No

However, sometimes I wonder if the things I do and say are truly making a significant impact on anyone’s life other than mine? If I stopped encouraging others, writing books, blogging, etc. would anyone care? Do I truly have a purpose? Some days the answer comes swiftly, of course I do. Others days, I am left to wonder longer than I would like.

There’s no lesson to be learned in this one. Just the random musings of a single woman who sometimes wonders why she’s here and if the reasons she thinks she's here really matter. Maybe I should get a dog. (-: 

Jae Henderson is author of the inspirational romance, Someday. To learn more about her, visit 


  1. Here's the interesting thing about purpose -- it's bigger than you. You see, it works within the Master Plan that God has designed, so even if you were married with children, your purpose would simply include them, not be all about them. In addition, being married w/ kids is not exactly a thing of purpose -- it's a choice. If you were a wife, you would still be required by God to do that thing or those things that He specifically ordained for you to do when He formed you in your mother's womb.

    Your responsibility is to simply continue to seek it out, because it will continue to evolve and expand. Another thing about purpose is that its rewards are not readily available or visible all of the time or right away. That's not even supposed to be your focus. Your focus should be primarily on the work, period. When we do our work, God has more to work with in the Earth. So stay focused on that. Finally, it would also help if you reached beyond your comfort zone. Perhaps you have outgrown your present circumstances and now it's time to take everything up a notch so that you can meet new people and have more experiences. :-)

  2. I am just reading this Chandra. Thank you for your words of encouragement. You have always been wise beyond your years. Be blessed my sister.