Saturday, February 25, 2012

What’s Your Beauty Regimen?

Every woman wants to look and feel beautiful. My bathroom is filled with products designed to promote acne-free, glowing, soft, supple skin. There’s makeup for days I want to enhance my beauty.  There’s hair products, brushes and combs to keep my crowning glory looking good. Not to mention all of the electronic items…curlers, flat irons, blow dryers…need I say more? After all that somebody better notice, right? I know you do it for yourself…blah blah blah. But there’s nothing wrong with enjoying when someone else acknowledges our efforts. It certainly brings a smile to my face when people use the terms beautiful, fine, gorgeous, sexy, etc. etc. when referring to me. But you can’t let it go to your head, and you can’t let it make you lose focus on what true beauty is.  I have to ask, how often do you try to beautify yourself for God?

I recently learned about a global movement called 31 Status. It’s geared toward showing girls what the Proverbs 31 woman looks like today. If you’ve read my books, you know I’m all about women living for God and boldly taking a stand against how the world says women should behave, dress and love. Often, it contradicts what God says. So you know I heart these chicks and what they are trying to do. I went to their Facebook page and the founder, Lizzie Young, recently posted these words, “Your cuteness doesn’t impress God. He made it.” Simple, yet profound. So in our quest to beautify ourselves outwardly, we need to beautify ourselves inwardly with the righteousness, holiness and truth of our Heavenly Father. We impress and please God when we do what he has called his people to for him. For the ultimate beauty regiment get in his word daily. Pray.  Fellowship and learn from other Christians because as iron sharpens iron so does one man sharpen another. Now, in true Jae Henderson style I’m going to add to Lizzie’s statement…..

“Your cuteness doesn’t impress God. He made it. What else you got?

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Jae Henderson is the author of the delightfully inspirational romance novels Someday and Someday, Too.

Monday, February 20, 2012

My Online Dating Experience

I recently signed up for one of those online dating sites, but after three days I am deleting my account. My sister suggested I try it since I don’t seem to be having any luck in the Memphis dating pool. Perhaps, my ideal man isn’t in any of the places I frequent or perhaps, he isn’t even in Memphis. I know she just wants me to be happy, but this isn’t for me. Honestly, I can’t take this thing seriously and part of me is scared to put myself out there like that with perfect strangers. In the past, I’ve dated men I met on Black Planet (yeah that was YEARS ago) and Facebook and none of them ended with happily ever after. So maybe there’s a little online hating there. I realized that I can’t get a feel for a guy based off a picture and a profile on a screen. I need to meet a man in person and be able to make an instant analysis of whether or not I'm wasting my time. It is a major let down when you chat online or talk on the phone for days building up anticipation and then meet the man you thought you had a good vibe with and there is no chemistry.

In three days I’ve had about 30 messages from men ranging from mid-twenties to men who could easily pass as my granddaddy. Most of them start off with “Hi. How are you?” and then some remark about how they find me attractive.  Some contain a phone number. Although I find that very flattering, I haven’t been moved by any of them.

Quite a few of the pictures I see have been comic relief for me, and I’ve probably already pissed a few people off. Because I have been a victim of embarrassing misspellings myself, I had to tell the gentleman who said he was carring, loveing and inteligent that he may want to correct that. I would hate for him to run Mrs. Right away based on typos or his lack of spell check. All I could do is laugh at the guy who took a picture of himself hugging his dog in bed. I’m not quite sure what to think about that, but he was FINE as all get out. Maybe I should envy the dog instead of laugh at him. One young man saw fit to post pictures of his momma on his personal profile. Not him and his momma but his momma in a picture by herself. I have always said I wanted a man who was crazy about his momma. My philosophy is if a man will mistreat the woman who brought him into the world, he won’t think twice about dogging about some poor unrelated woman.  Maybe I should give him a chance. LOL One man who sent me a message said he was looking for a Lil Kim on his profile. This led me to wonder if I was wearing too much make up in the pictures I posted because there is nothing Lil Kimmish about me. Why would anyone want a has been female rapper who has had waaaay too much plastic surgery anyway? There have been some cuties sending me notes, but I don’t think I’m mature enough for online dating yet. I’ll keep taking my chances on the streets of Memphis. I have actually been on a couple of good dates lately. Wish me luck!

Oh, Happy Belated Valentine's Day To All Of You!

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