Tuesday, May 28, 2013

Who Knew?



I recently told a male suitor that a friend of mine was giving away a dog and the adorable Yorkie was coming to spend the weekend with me to see how we got along. If things went well, I would become his new owner. My suitor responded, "I must not be spending enough time with you. I'll try to come over more often."

How in the world did "I want a dog" translate into "I want more time from you"? It's true that I want a dog because a pet would bring more life to this single woman's domicile of mine. I wouldn't mind at all coming home and having someone jumping up and down with glee from my arrival. However, I never thought that meant that I was lonely for a man's attention. It meant I WANT A DOG. It never ceases to amaze me how the male brain computes information. Maybe he doesn't like dogs. Is pet owner the new definition of lonely? I always thought that was the chick with six dogs and seven cats who lets them all sleep with her and has pet hair on her whenever you see her. Then she has the nerve to wonder why she never has a man.

Although, if I had known all I had to do was threaten to get a pet and men would come around more often I would have used that one quite some time ago. Put that in your arsenal for future use ladies.

Who Knew????

P.S. I didn't get the dog. They decided not to give it away.

My Side of the Single Life is by book author Jae Henderson. Her inspirational romance novels, Someday, Someday, Too, and Forever and a Day are now available in ebook (Kindle and Nook) and paperback. Visit her at, www.jaehendersonauthor.com and www.imagoodwoman.com.  

Wednesday, May 15, 2013

That Darn Thing Called Closure





"A women who knows her true value will only put up with a man's nonsense for so long. 
You either get right or get left."--Harriet Morgan

I recently ended a relationship. It ended abruptly because I was fed up with repeated less than desirable behavior.  There was no “Baby, we need to talk, AGAIN. Can you meet me somewhere? Explain to me what’s going on with you.” There was just a fed up voicemail and a nonresponsive man. After I calmed down, I asked if could we discuss what happened. I wanted and needed closure. My request went unanswered. I wanted to know why he would continue behaviors he knew were detrimental to our relationship. We talked about them several times, he apologized and said he would do better. He didn’t. Was he purposely trying to get me to end things. If so, why? This was a man who spent months trying to woo me only to push me away three months later. Was he fed up with me? Bored with our relationship? Had he met someone else? Did I do something wrong I was unaware of? Did I stink? Did I have an onslaught of boogers in my nose? Why all of sudden did Mr. Dependable, I Can’t Get Enough Of You become Mr. I’ll See Ya When I See Ya And If I’m Not Coming I May Or May Not Tell You? His change was so instant and I was so unprepared. I don't claim to have responded in the best manner, but we all have our breaking point. It seems I will never get the answers to these questions because he won’t talk to me. Even if he did, I run the risk of not liking what he has to say. Maybe it’s better this way. I’ll just have to charge this one to the game and move on with the knowledge that everything happens for a reason.

Why do we need this polite finality called closure? I think it’s more important to women that it is to men. We want it even when we know that an understanding for why things happened the way they did won’t change the outcome. However, you can’t get closure unless the other person is willing to talk to you. Oh well……moving on. 

I remember years ago Gerald Levert put out the song above. That darn thing called closure keeps you from walking away without giving what you lost a second thought even when you know it's over and done with. I feel ya Gerald. I most certainly feel you.

 My Side of the Single Life is by book author Jae Henderson. Her inspirational romance novels, Someday, Someday, Too, and Forever and a Day are now available in ebook (Kindle and Nook) and paperback. Visit her at, www.jaehendersonauthor.com and www.imagoodwoman.com

Monday, May 6, 2013

Rainy Day Inspirations

I don’t write poetry often but I was inspired by the rain beating against my window recently. Enjoy!



STROLL

I took a stroll in the rain today
I wanted to feel the tears of God cascade down my body as I shed my own
I needed Him to wash away the pain I felt because of the things that man said and did to me
The lies
The empty promises
Meaningful words like future, love, mine that he threw about so carelessly
I took a stroll in the rain today
The cold wetness didn’t compare to the chill I felt when I realized that I was alone yet again
Alone isn’t so bad but lonely is torture
Starting over is the last thing I want to do
I took a stroll in the rain today
My heart hummed a song
The rain as it hit the ground kept time
The cars whizzing by were my off key band
My feet as they trudged along added timbre
My song was sad with a twinge of hope
No one heard it but me and God
I took a stroll in the rain today 
So I could ask God a question
Why?
He said you always pray and ask me to remove the men from your life who aren’t right for you
Then when I do you cry
Why?
I took a stroll in the rain today
To feel God’s embrace as He kept me safe

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 My Side of the Single Life is by book author Jae Henderson. Her inspirational romance novels, Someday, Someday, Too, and Forever and a Day are now available in ebook (Kindle and Nook) and paperback. Visit her at, www.jaehendersonauthor.com and www.imagoodwoman.com