Wednesday, December 17, 2014

Da Love Ink: To Cover Or Not To Cover

BEFORE
Small, medium, or massive we all know a guy or gal, for that matter, who has a tattoo dedicated to their ex inked on them. This artistic expression of what was once love can be a little unsettling for the new Boo or it might not bother them at all. I personally, can deal with it while we are dating if it's not too big and is usually covered by clothing. However, if we jump the broom it has to go. Why? She is his past and I'm his present and future. I don't want to be reminded of his past every time I see him with no clothes. Although, people whose spouse kept the tattoo tell me that after a while you forget it's there. Awww Okay! 

I would hope the object of my affections would do it without me having to ask but I'm not above asking. I'm sure many people wonder why wasn't it done right after the split but the only people I’ve seen who got their tats covered up right after the split are celebrities. The average person walking around on the street usually waits a few years. I once met a guy whose right arm was largely dedicated to his ex-wife. It had her face and everything. When I asked what he planned to do about that, his answer was pretty much, “nothing”.  As far as he was concerned, all of his tattoos represented moments and experiences in his life and his marriage was a pivotal one. Well, it’s his arm and I'm sure covering that up would cost a pretty penny. 

When someone takes the time and money to cover up their skin shrine to the former goddess or god of their heart, it’s safe to say that the love affair is truly over. See the example of  Nick Cannon and his dedication to Mariah Carey

My advice is don't get any identifying tattoos with names, initials, faces, etc. If you stick to symbols of love, if it ends no one will be the wiser and you can save the cover up fees. 


What are your thoughts? Would you be okay with your love bug or spouse having a tattoo of someone they were once involved with? 

AFTER

My Side of the Single Life is by book author Jae Henderson. Her inspirational romance novels, Someday, Someday, Too, and Forever and a Day are now available in ebook (Kindle and Nook) and paperback. Get her new ebook Things Every Good Woman Should Know Volume 1 on Amazon.com or Barnesandnoble.com. Also, visit her at www.jaehendersonauthor.com

Monday, December 8, 2014

I Got Cuffed During Boo Season




Those of you who have been following me for a while, know that I abhor Boo Season. Last week, I reposted a blog I did about it in 2010. I think a lonely, narcissistic individual with no conscience and a disdain for long-term commitment came up with Boo Season. I'm also pretty sure it was man. Probably the same dude that invented, “kickin it”. So, I actually find it hilarious that I would meet someone and enter into a relationship during Boo Season. You know I had to make sure that he wasn’t trying to run game, right? You can see our text conversation below:

Me: You’re not just trying to date me for Boo Season, are you?

Him: I’m not sure what you mean, please explain.

Me: Boo Season is when you date someone during the fall and winter months because it’s too cold to be out trolling for women. You have someone to cuddle with and spend time with during the holidays. Once it gets warm again, you make up some idiotic excuse to break up so you can date other people during the hot months when everyone is running around half-naked. Sometimes, people break up before Valentine's so it doesn't seem serious or they don't have to buy a gift.

Him: How about this? I want you for 30 consecutive Boo Seasons.

Me: So, you want to be with me up until I’m 67. So you can use up all my good years and then dump me for a younger woman. No sir!

Him: That didn't go quite like I planned. You have a point.

Me: LOL! It’s okay. I know what you meant.That's so sweet!

As you can see, I’m still giving men a hard time. LOL Seriously, I knew he was a good guy but I wouldn’t be me if I didn’t investigate just to make sure. I thought I would share our interaction to give you guys a good laugh. Avoid Boo Season people! Happy Holidays!

My Side of the Single Life is by book author Jae Henderson. Her inspirational romance novels, Someday, Someday, Too, and Forever and a Day are now available in ebook (Kindle and Nook) and paperback. Get her new ebook Things Every Good Woman Should Know Volume 1 on Amazon.com or Barnesandnoble.com. Also, visit her at www.jaehendersonauthor.com.

Wednesday, December 3, 2014

Boo Season: Bah Humbug!



Originally Published 09/26/2010

It’s fall and Facebook is a buzz with posts about Boo Season and how it’s the time to find someone to keep you warm during the winter months. I guess this isn’t a new concept.  But it seems odd to give it a name and a brand. Call me green but I never thought people would actually seek out someone just for this time of year, but it’s understandable. No one wants to spend Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year’s Eve alone. I can see how an extra gift under the Christmas tree and someone to kiss when the clock strikes midnight to signify a new year would be appealing. Let’s not forget Valentine’s Day. That highly commercialized day when people are supposed to flock to the stores and spend obscene amounts of money to prove their love for the object of their affections. No woman wants to admit she didn’t get a thing because she had no one to give her anything.

But why do people treat being single like it’s an incurable venereal disease? With the alarming rate of divorces, the staggering number of illegitimate babies being born each year, the escalation of HIV in the African American community and people who change significant others like they change underwear I think it’s safe to say that some people may have been better off alone at certain periods in their lives. For them having a boo, even if it was for just one night, probably didn’t turn out the way they thought it would.

 


Right now, I’m cool with being single but I know there will come a time when I’ll long for constant companionship. Human beings are not meant to be alone, but I don’t believe having a man just for the sake of having a man would be wise, at least not for me. I’m almost certain it would end in heart ache and pain. Although, it might reduce my urge to change the station when that depressing song “What Do The Lonely Do At Christmas?” escapes my speakers or stay inside my home when V-Day rolls around. I used to say if I ever met Cupid I would tear off his wings, break all his arrows and pour ice in his diaper. Then would follow a painful interrogation period about why he hasn’t hit someone with his arrows on my behalf. (LOL) But back to Boo Season….what happens when spring hits, the weather improves, we all escape our winter lairs with less clothes and less inhibitions. More than likely the man I thought loved me will reveal that he wants to be free to explore other options but his time with me has been fun. Boo Season all of a sudden turns into BOO HOO season and I will have to come to grips with the fact that I allowed myself to be used. I think I’ll boycott Boo Season. Instead, if I start to get lonely I’ll….hell I don’t know what I’ll do. I’ll figure that out when it happens. To those of you who choose to participate, I wish you good luck and warm nights accompanied by a great game of footsie.

Whoever started Boo Season needs to go see a psychiatrist. It’s obvious they have a co-dependency issue. (-: 


Next week I'll give you an update on where my stance lies on Boo Season in 2014.  

My Side of the Single Life is by book author Jae Henderson. Her inspirational romance novels, Someday, Someday, Too, and Forever and a Day are now available in ebook (Kindle and Nook) and paperback. Get her new ebook Things Every Good Woman Should Know Volume 1 on Amazon.com or Barnesandnoble.com. Also, visit her at www.jaehendersonauthor.com.